Lu's Diary

  After going through so much, I have finally come to realize that the sense of "being wronged"—that particular vulnerability—exists only within the context of the unconditional love shared with parents and family. When stepping out of the warmth of home and into the realities of the adult world, this is how one must navigate it: — ** Relating as Equals ** Do not defer blindly to authority; do not seek validation; express yourself with clarity. — ** Understanding Needs ** Tune in to your own authentic feelings; prioritize the human element in your interactions; and value the emotions of others during conversations. — ** Proactive Collaboration ** When undertaking tasks or seeking opportunities, prioritize your own interests. Proposing solutions, engaging in value exchange, navigating conflicts, pausing to reflect, and making concessions are all essential maneuvers in this strategic interplay. 经历了这么多， 我才明白委屈只存在与父母和家人的无条件爱的关系中，温暖的家走入真实的成人世界该这样面对   - 价值平视       不仰视...

Principle: Attraction vs. Appeasement: The essence of human nature is to admire strength, but attention spans only 3-10 seconds—opportunities in career and relationships come from attraction, not appeasement. Steps: Observe and find your place: Perceive your own emotions - accept without correction Perceive others' emotions: ask about their feelings, ask for details without judgment, and use open-ended questions to extend the topic. Examples: - Understand subconscious needs - make people feel comfortable, understood, and seen -  Rejection - Delayed gratification: This is a good idea, but I have something urgent right now. How about Wednesday afternoon or later? - Parrot Reply - Let the other party elaborate: You're changing jobs, you must have a new goal - Get rid of the casual attitude, just accept what you chose last time, I'll listen to you again this time - Mutually Beneficial Solution - Ask, discuss, and confirm 1-Minute Persuasion - Value Positioning Gains Attraction:...

【推背图】全书共六十象，令人不可思议地预测了从武则天称帝到清朝灭亡一千多年的历史大事，… ​​ 第一象：甲子。乾卦。这一幅图讲的是开篇，相当于序言。主旨：历史给我们最大的教训，就是人们不肯记住历史给我们的教训。 第二象：乙丑。巽下乾上，天风姤卦。预言大唐二十帝。大家注意，第四个苹果是没有把的（对应武则天），下一卦有详解。 第三象：丙寅。艮下乾上，天山遁卦。预言武则天大周代唐。 第四象：丁卯。坤下乾上，天地否卦。预言张柬之夺回李唐政权。 第五象：戊辰。坤下巽上，风地观卦。预言杨贵妃马嵬之变。 第六象：已巳。坤下艮上，山地剥卦。预言郭子仪重振大唐。 第七象：庚午。震下乾上，天雷无妄卦。预言吐番部落入寇中原。 第八象：辛未。坤下离上，火地晋卦。预言李希烈祸乱大唐。 第九象：壬申。乾下离上，火天大有卦。预言黄巢起义。 第十象：癸酉。坎下坎上，坎卦。预言朱温篡唐。 第十一象：申戍。兑下坎上，水泽节卦。预言戏子皇帝后唐庄宗之死。 第十二象：乙亥。震下坎上，水雷屯卦。预言儿皇帝石敬塘割让幽州。 第十三象：丙子。离下坎上，水火既济卦。预言后周郭威君临天下。 第十四象：丁丑。离下兑上。泽火革卦。预言五代终结。 第十五象：戊寅。离下震上，雷火丰卦。预言宋太祖扫荡群雄。 第十六象：己卯。离下坤上，地火明夷卦。预言赵匡胤一统天下。“天一生水”点出赵匡胤的郡望天水，就差指着赵匡胤的鼻子说事了。纳土姓钱并姓李，说的是吴越钱氏和南塘后主李煜称臣。 第十七象：庚辰。坎下坤上，地水师卦。预言宋真宗亲征澶渊。 第十八象：辛巳。艮下艮上，艮卦。预言刘太后垂帘听政，辅佐仁宗。旁有一犬，其惟狄青乎。 第十九象：壬午。离下艮上，山火贲卦。预言王安石变法及西北丧师。 第二十象：癸未。离下乾上，天火同人卦。预言蔡京乱政。 第二十一象：甲申。兑下艮上，山泽损卦。预言靖康之耻。 第二十二象：乙酉。预言南宋建，祸水漫。康王泥马渡江。 第二十三象：丙戍。下兑上乾，天泽履卦。预言蒙古崛起。 第二十四象：丁亥。下兑上巽，风泽中孚卦。预言南宋灭亡。 第二十五象：戊子。艮下巽上，风山渐卦。预言元朝国运。蒙古忽必烈在北方称帝，建立元朝，南方汉人称臣。其斧柄为10节，喻忽必烈建元朝后，传10帝。 第二十六象：己丑。震下震上，震卦。预言元朝灭亡。 第二十七象：庚寅。下坤上震，雷地豫卦。预言明朝开国。 第二十八象：辛卯。下坎上震，雷水解...